You don't sound delusional to me. You sound like you've tried to excuse this behavior and realized you found it too disturbing to excuse. Trust yourself.

If any therapist - heck, any professional I hired - said to me "You're hot" I would consider it highly inappropriate. Likewise too much personal disclosure. And "different from everyone else" - I've heard that from a therapist too, and did not like it. Don't know how the touching started but the therapist is not supposed to initiate it.