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Old Jul 06, 2016, 11:50 PM
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Originally Posted by BayBrony View Post
Yes, to me "seductive" implies an intent to entrap/seduce. Which at least in my situation was not the case, nor was it exclusive to the therapy situation. For example I have had super powerful maternal transference with my massage therapist, my riding coach, and one of my old bosses. Pretty much give me an older female and let me speak one on one with her and I'll develop maternal transference.

If you wanted to call it "conducive to attachment" I'd say yes. Definitely conducive to attachment.

But for me, again, that means "one on one with an older female", which is pretty broad.
And reliant on non-therapy issues.

I believe I could be in therapy with a male, a female more than 20 years older than myself, or younger than myself, and the same therapy situation would not cause transference at all.

Of course,* I *specifically sought out a T in a certain gender and age range ....because well, those are my issues.
All very good points. Same for me--I've experienced feelings/attachments that were stronger than the situation really called for in contexts outside of therapy. So when my thoughts sometimes wound obsessively around my T---well, I wasn't proud of it, but It wasn't really a surprise, either. It had happened with people before, usually people of a particular type (like you with older females).

I imagine it must be supremely disturbing to have this happen in therapy if you've never experienced before.
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