mrvalancey thank you so much for your feedback and your words. I totally agree with what you are saying and yes you are absolutely right i never did get any closure from him even when i asked him for it. But yes i will start to be better and not look for anything or see what he is doing etc. In the end it is only hurting me i constantly find myself crying and a few times in front of my daughter and i dont want her to see me cry because i dont want her to see me weak because of her dad. i know i am stronger and can move on as this may be gods way of letting me know that although he blessed me with a child he is not the man for me and by continuously wasting my time and energy on him i may be blocking my blessing of the man of my dreams thank you again hun i really appreciate it.