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Originally Posted by divine1966
I don't see anything that would be a turn off at all and I would reply ( or contact first) if I was looking for a date and was closer in age. Sounds like you are a person women wouldn't mind to get to know at all.
The only thing that i would find somewhat problematic is extreme length of the profile and large number of details . Most dating sites wouldn't allow lengthy profile ( the ones I am familiar with), I'd probably not finish reading it. Also it provides so many details that i wouldn't have much left to ask in a conversation. You don't leave much room no mystery. Like you might say you like dark comedy ( example) or adult cartoons or music or exotic foods then person would be compelled to ask what specific ones etc For example I am an artist, exhibiting in art shows etc I mentioned in profiles when i dated but I didn't disclose media or genre. That's something people asked when they contacted me. I am a teacher, but I didn't say the subject matter, people would want to ask when they contact me. I read a lot but wouldn't say what. That's again something people would ask. Etc etc just my suggestion.
I would significantly shorten it and leave a lot of details out. That's just my opinion.
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Thanks for the feedback, Divine. Afraid I've been there, done that, got the shirt.
Again, my apologies if I sound like I'm getting pedantic here, but that's the nature of topic as I've been online dating for over six years now... I think longer than my longest job at this point. I've tried a lot... including more punctuated profiles. In fact, I've generally kept the interests to genres instead of putting in a giant wall of movies, bands, etc. (tried that too). I've even tried a Tinder-brief style blurb approach a few times.
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Other than that I absolutely don't see anything that would explain lack of response from women. It sounds like someone who should have no problem getting a date.
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Story of my life. It's the worst when I find someone with similar perspectives as myself and/or has common interests and passions (music, TV, or whathaveyou) so one really has something to connect on & make for an easy conversation starter... then get ignored... or viewed and ignored. Just never good enough. Ever.
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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
I'm not best placed to comment as I haven't been single for loooooong time, last time I was the internet wasn't around never mind online dating. But I'm still a woman (last time I looked), so here goes.
Reading your profile I can't understand why you aren't getting responses plus in my opinion (& many others) you are very good looking. Are you the same guy who called his face garbage?? You really need to work on your self esteem IMO. Maybe you're giving off a lack of self belief vibe? Idk, just some thoughts from what you've written on here.
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Awww... thanks
I dunno, though. How am I
supposed to feel about myself? Like I mentioned before, I have what I can only describe as a "paradoxical" sense of esteem (is there a psychology term for this?). I try to be the best person I can: Presentable, interesting, fun to be around... and I
see someone I like when I look at myself in the mirror in the morning... but when there's no interest and relentless rejection for years on end, one only has the metrics to go off... and those metrics say I'm utterly passable trash not even worth considering a conversation and/or a cup of coffee with. The singles world certainly knows how to make a man feel ugly and worthless.