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Old Jul 08, 2016, 06:46 AM
Summer Daze Summer Daze is offline
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Criesandgoodbyes, thank you for taking the time to reply in such depth. I really appreciate it! Although I completely see what you're saying about making a decision it is just hard for me to let go because I too seem to have attachment issues. Which I wasn't aware of prior to therapy but it seems to be fairly obvious now since I can't just walk away as easily as I would like. I also didn't mention in the above posts (because I wasn't sure of its relevance) that T and I communicate outside of session, in between sessions, mostly via text. Sometimes over the phone. The texts are more often than not, not therapy related. However, this is not T's fault because I initiate most of them but T is receptive. It's nothing inappropriate on a non-therepeutic level but in terms of a therapeutic relationship, it could be. My issue has been that I haven't really viewed him as a therapist for a while now and more of a human being I have a genuine connection with. Like a friend. The issue is (the reason I labeled this thread as its "getting worse") is when he starts to withdraw or I'm not getting out of the relationship what I think I need I start to get hurt which always turns to anger and me wanted to distance myself. It's very complicated because as I mentioned before, I am in a committed relationship and this isn't romantic on my end. We do have a very genuine connection that has a certain chemistry about it. We are also very compatible. This is all platonic to me. I guess I'm just a little upset because I was trusting him as one should do with their T and now I feel like I'm going to be the one to get very hurt. I'm concerned. I've read horror stories on this forum and although everyone thinks "that won't happen to me. My situation is completely different. Our relationship is completely different", the logic in my mind can't help but shout at me to be cautious.