I live in the south with my husband and 2 kids. My family lives up north. (Aunt, mom and grandma)
They are amazing people. They pay for my kids to have the best education where we live, they send me money to offset my disability payments from what i used to make while working.
They never use the money as control. Which is amazing. There are no strings attachted to the financial support.

Now, ive been out of work since february. Ive been diagnosed since 2012. Ive tried multiple pdocs and t's. Ive finally found someone who got me out of my deep depression and lessened my mania. Pdoc is amazing and DBT IOP.

Despite improvement, my family wants me to get another opinion. It comes down to they dont see me everyday and dont see how far ive come since 2012.
I wrote a long email explaining how i used to cheat on my husband, got into debt, missed a huge amount of work, had an alcohol problem etc. Since 2012.
They were shocked and supportive and feel horribly sad for me.

Despite them finally understanding me and my condition, they still want to send me to the mayo clinic for the best care in the US.

When my husband started getting sick in 2011, they sent him there and he got amazing treatment. He has an autoimmune disease which was not being treated correctly where we live and the mayo clinic saved his life.

I am at a slow incline in my health and dont think an intervention is necessary right now. If i start to decline i think it would be good. But not now. And my husband agrees with me.
So to appease them, i drove 3 hours to chapel hill and got a second opinion. That dr seems great, but her plan is to hospitalize me for 2 weeks and get off all meds, go through withdrawals and psychosis and start over with new meds.
I am concerned that if i do this, i will lose the drive i have right now to get better. Before this year i didnt take meds correctly or go to therapy regularly, but now im working so hard on myself.
My husband agrees with me.

I just dont know what to do. I know they are trying to help and everything comes from a place of concern and love, but they are pushing for new treatment that i just dont think is best right now. Maybe a year ago, but not now.

Just venting and looking for support on my decision i guess. Or, an argument as to why it would make sense to follow what they want. Thanks!

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