Thanks for the responses, everyone. Apparently my short-livded jaded pity party helped, lol.
I don't like being called evil, and I don't like calling other people evil just on principle. Why? Because I see it as a way to basically write someone off as this "other", when in reality they're just human beings like anyone else... All they're doing is expressing the darker shades of human nature in an unhealthy way.
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Sounds like you're feeling rejected?
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Not rejected so much as isolated.
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I really am intrigued because I've been accused of being a certain way repeatedly by people who are the opposite of what I am accused of being... Personally I think labels are all about perceptions and the inadequacies of other
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Hm, how interesting. If you ever come back around here I'd be happy to chat with you about it. I've been accused of many things, some are completely true, but so much of the time the accusations are totally false. If I'm going to be called evil, I'd like the use of the word to apply to something I've actually done.
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I was more likely to be upset by other people's "evil" when I deny or repress it in myself. They probably have "evil" aspects, too, whether they know it or not. So sorry their inability to deal with their stuff makes the relationship with you difficult or painful. You can only do the best you can do. Maybe part of "healing" is accepting that but mostly I think "healing" is a psychobabble word.
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Good post. What I've noticed over and over when I'm falsely accused of something is that the people accusing me of whatever are actually saying a hell of a lot more about their behavior than mine.
"Healing" is yet another word that's been so overused that it doesn't really have much meaning anymore outside of psychobabble BS.
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Sometimes, trying to be a "better person" is a challenge because some people have no intention of being a better person themselves.
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That's really the whole reason I was jaded enough to post this in the first place. It's that I've really put quite a lot of effort into being a "better person" lately, and to get slapped in the face when I really didn't deserve it totally pissed me off.