Two people should be together "as they are". What do I mean by this? When you choose to be with another person, they should neither have to change their normal way of life nor should you. If being in a relationship means drastically changing your behavior you're with the wrong person altogether. Obviously there are some compromises but at the core you should be accepted as you are and not need to mold to values that contrast your own or go against what you believe.

So as for the friends on either side. Neither of you are right. In fact, you're both very wrong for expecting to restrict the other and teling them who their friends can be. If ANYONE else in your life were to tell you who to hang out with you'd both tell them to eff off, so why should it be any different here? NO one has the right to tell either of you who to be friends with. It's very immature, controlling and manipulative behavior and you're both guilty of it.

If your relationship is at the point of arguments comparing friends to each other and who is more wrong, your relationship is very broken and not working. Not one point on this thread talks about how much you two love each other and why you're together, no it's picking apart tiny details of friendships. No relationship can work on the basis of mistrust and jealousy. Based on what you've said that is all I see. jealousy and distrust. It's a competition not a romantic relationship.