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Originally Posted by BipolarMama31
S4- you are amazingly spot on with calling me out. (Not in a negative way) you described my personality as being pushed/manipulated. And that is 100% correct.
I guess if money wasnt invvoled i would be more blunt with them.
But i do try to keep the peace.
And there really isnt any other option for money right now. Im waiting for ssdi, but i just got my first denial. So im living off of metlife payments.
Yea i am being pushed into something i dont think i need. And theyve acknowledged what ive gone through and where im at now, but are still pushing.
But on the other hand, who am i to turn down such a generous offer?
My husband also has a 'motive' of sorts, because he doesnt want to rock the boat.
Ive gotten conficted advice from my medical team, but i am easily persuaded into things. Part of borderline ive been told.
I appreciate the feedback im getting here. Its making me really think. And i think im more confused than before i solicted advice  but thats what im looking for.
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thank you. Thank you for your honesty and thank you for giving the answer I was looking for. AT the point where you realize that there isn't any other financial option, you have to ask yourself, will it hurt you more in order to go with what they want? Will "keeping the peace" be detrimental to your well being or peace at home or is this a knee jerk reaction because, like me, you resist sometimes after being very compliant for a long time and get tired of being pushed? Thing is, people like us, the compliant ones, get a wild idea to resist but because we many times go through life begrudgingly complying, we tend to pick the wrong times to resist! Sometimes even when the other people are actually right if we're in that "mode" we resist without a solid reason to do so. Ask yourself if this is what is going on.
Then decide if it will actually hurt you to go along with it. We already know financially it would not. They'd pay for it. We already know it would help to keep the peace like you so desire to do all the time. So how would it be detrimental to you? My impulse is to say it won't, and potentially it could be beneficial. Considering it's free help to you, I'd seriously consider these questions