For a long time I have been aware of my fear of abandonment. However, until lately, I was not aware of how bad my fear of rejection is-- the fear of hearing "no."

I want to manipulate my T's answer so that he will accept a CD from me.

I have off from school next Tuesday. This Friday I want to ask him if I can come in on Tuesday as well, but I am afraid to ask.

(Warning-- the next one is really pathetic)

Two weeks ago the fan was on in session. It was oscillating back and forth and every time it would point in my direction my hair would go flying into my face and I would have to comb the hair out of my face. I was also chilly. And it was loud. But I was afraid to ask him if I could shut the fan. Finally he asked me, "Do you want to shut the fan?" (Probably because I kept yelling, "what??" and I looked like Cousin It). I said, "Yes." And he said, "Why didn't you just say something, or just turn it off?" I told him that I didn't want to ask.

I often don't ask my husband if he wants to do certain things or go certain places because I don't want him to say no.

Growing up, my mom was very overprotective of me. She had really bad anxiety and panic disorder-- so she was afraid to let me do anything. I hated to ask her stuff because I knew she would usually say no.