pinksoil, I understand completely about not wanting to ask to have the fan turned off. I could see myself doing something like that. I hope you will be able to risk hearing "no" by offering him the CD. It could be a really empowering moment. Go for it!

I had kind of a similar experience in therapy yesterday, but I did good! Whenever I go to therapy, T offers me a bottle of water or else I help myself to one from his fridge. At an earlier point in therapy, he would often offer to make me tea. I really liked this and would often take him up on his offer, but not always. Sometimes we would drink tea together or sometimes just me. It was another way I felt taken care of by him. Anyway, I think it has been a few months since he invited me to have tea. I have wished a number of times he would offer me tea, but I felt I couldn't ask him to make me tea. It might inconvenience him or he might feel obliged when he really didn't want to or he might say no. The negative possibilities are endless, lol. So yesterday, I really wanted tea when I arrived. It was raining outside and I was feeling the edge of a caffeine headache seeping in. So when I arrived I asked him if I could have a cup of tea! I know it sounds dumb, but this was kind of a big moment for me. (I'm pathetic, I know.) He said, "I would love to make you some tea." And he got down on his knees (his kettle is on the floor), filled the kettle with water, searched for a tea bag for me, boiled the water, poured it over the tea bag, and then handed it to me. Man, how can a simple thing like that make me feel so good? I was really proud of myself that I was able to ask him for the tea.

pink, I feel really confident that if you give your T a CD, there will be a good outcome. And you know what? Even if he says "no," you can handle it!