Well
It's important for you to feel safe and acknowledge the situation. How do you see yourself with your husband in the next 30 years?
It's dificult to deal with people like that (my dad for example), but not imposible.
So, have you told him how do you feel? Your husband is dealing with a lot of stress and might not find a way to deal with it until it explodes.
It might be hard for him, but have he considered to look for another job?
I hope my words could help you.