You have no obligation to go. It does not make you a bad person at all. The only reason you need not to attend, is that you don't want to. That's enough.

Family is only everything if you are close to them. I'm related to a lot of people I don't even know.

If people harass you for not attending, they are jerks. We all grieve in different ways and nobody has the right to dictate how a person responds to death.

I don't attend any activities unless I want to. It doesn't make me popular, but it does make me happier and less anxious.

(((Hugs))) to you.