I wouldn't go, that's for sure. It doesn't make you a bad person to not go-- not AT ALL. And BipolaRNurse sums it up well, and I couldn't agree more. It'd be trigger city. You've worked very hard. There's no reason to risk anything for them! The card? Meh. Send or don't. If you do, there's certainly no reason to do anything more than a perfunctory blah blah blah (there's a better way to phrase that, it's just escaping me atm. ) (Personally, again, I wouldn't bother.)