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Originally Posted by divine1966 I really don't understand what's going on. Honestly. Maybe there are services that match you? Like expensive ones? Not online?

Perhaps... I've entertained the idea of it. Most seem very geared towards matching conservative, clean-cut women with wealthy, successful men. I can't really see where I fit in there. They always ping the men for the fees in those things. It's sexist, and I'm a humanist from both sides of the coin, and don't approve of those types of business practices so I've always passed on them.

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Originally Posted by divine1966 I don't understand you not getting a date. I totally understand having difficulty finding right person for relationship and especially life long commitment but I don't get what's up with not getting a date?

PRECISELY my gripe. If I was getting dates and not finding the right people, or simply turning people off... that's my issue. I'd take full responsibility for that and adjust things accordingly... but no one giving me chance to begin with is absolutely maddening. It's so very reminiscent of the job hunt: Just these vast, empty stretches of rejection-after-rejection-after-rejection, then finally an interview and I nail it no problem. Got the job. WTF? I'm probably batting .900 in the job interview category, no exaggeration... heck, dates-turned-to-relationships are probably in the same bracket... but it takes years-and-years on end to get either/or to happen.

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Originally Posted by divine1966 Do you contact women and they just don't respond? None of them?

Extraordinarily few. Almost none. Tinder won't match me with ANYONE. I've got to be ugly. I don't know what else it could be.

The few that have replied on Ok Cupid or Plenty of Fish are extremely unenthusiastic/unengaging in conversation. The conversation either fizzles due to short answers on their part, or I suggest that we meet up after a few exchanges and the dialoge goes dead.

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Originally Posted by divine1966 Have you tried eharmony?

Some time ago I took their interminable questionnaire... and was rejected admission to the site. It was probably because I have fairly progressive opinions about sexuality, and eHarmony is infamous for it's disdain for non-traditionalist viewpoints on sex and relationships. Neil Clark Warren (the guy on the commercials) is well known for his pro-Christian agenda, and the site has maligned homosexuals altogether in the past. Most of my girlfriends in the past have been legitimately bisexual, and I think I recall being probed about that in the questionnaire. I dunno specifically what it was... just one more place I was not good enough.