I lost a lot! physically, monetarily, from the men with whom I tried to bond online in the dating sites. My opinion...it's a meat market. They want to meet you in person to size you up physically. They're just looking at you, first of all. If they like you physically, then it can proceed. What do you have to offer them? Financial, physical? Sorry to be so cynical about this potential relationship. Maybe, just out of a thousand chances to one, this fella wants a valid relationship. Mebbe time for you to try other means to meet men.