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Originally Posted by prefabsprout Do you think it would help to take a little break from the online dating/singles scene? Maybe focus on other things in your life that make you happy?

I'm kinda riding that arc right now, hence having to dig up my old profile. With myself looking at having to get reemployed (and possibly looking at relocating), it's hardly my main focus. I've taken down all my profiles. I just can't deal with it at the moment. I was literally on the verge of gun-to-the-head suicide last year because of it... and I HAD a good job at the time. The summation of those two frustrations at this point in time would not be a good idea.

Though, overall, I don't see how it's going to help. What's going to change on the other end of... well, whatever another time period of stalling will end in? I'm not really feeling time is on my side here. People will always say: Be patient, love will show up, career will manifest! I sincerely don't think that's advice that pragmatically works in the context of our punctuated lives.

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Originally Posted by prefabsprout Do you have good friendship circles? If so maybe focus on those, nurturing the positive relationships you do have which make you feel good about yourself and happy. If not, then maybe work on those. It might not get you a date but it won't beat your self esteem up on a regular basis either.

Not really. I have good friends. A few. Keep in mind I lived in Portland, Oregon for most of my early thirties, and only moved back here around four years ago for my career. A lot of my old friends moved on. A lot are now married, in relationships (or divorced), and most with kids. They have busy lives, family-oriented hobbies, and nostalgic appreciations that I can't really identify with in my current position in life. They are good people (don't get me wrong), but I'm far behind them life-wise... even in the cases where I'm the older party. They don't really help. They just make me feel left behind, really. I go to parties to be a good friend because I want to see them feel happy and loved... but often come home feeling depressed, alone, and like a loser.

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Originally Posted by prefabsprout And I repeat - you are not ugly and worthless. There are a lot of unhappy posts about dating scenes on here, I don't think it's a reflection of who you are personally just the overall situation.

What overall situation is that?