I have the fear of rejection and hearing the word NO. I will avoid asking for anything for me, because I don't want to hear that word. I have been known to sit, and shiver or be in pain if it means I have to ask someone to do something, even in my marriage I just started being able to just do it, if I am uncomfortable. I still very rarely ask for something. I know that comes from growing up and never being able to ask or talk to my parents or older siblings, because the answer I learned quickly was always NO, or shut up and leave me alone!