Hello KristenRenee: I'm so sorry your family is having this terrible experience! Things you've probably already thought of are things such as: keep busy doing things, get in the see your therapist (if you have one) or get in to see one if you don't. (You may be dealing with the repercussions of this for some time to come. So trying to deal with it on your own may simply not be workable.)

What I try to do in my day-to-day life is to practice what the Buddhists term: "compassionate abiding". I strive to accept that whatever I am thinking or feeling is okay. I allow it to arise within me. I breathe into it & perhaps smile to it. I may even place my hand over my heart as a sign of lovingkindness & compassion for it. Then, after a few breathes, I drop the "story-line" (the specifics I'm thinking about) & then simply say with, breathe into, the underlying emotion be it fear, anger, anxiety, whatever... feel its power. I then allow it to fade of it's own accord.

I offer my healing thoughts to you, your son & your granddaughter with the hope that all will be well...