I think I understand where you are coming from, ShatteredSanity. For many years our front hosty person would have said the same thing. When she had just been diagnosed she saw all of them as 'them' - those who stole her time and kept her life in confusion and chaos and instability. All she wanted was for all of 'them' to go away so she could live her life in peace and 'be normal'. But as therapy progressed and she (and we) gradually (over many, many years!) developed co-consciousness and acceptance amongst some of the alters she (and we) came to truly like each other. We developed love and compassion for the different jobs they did and thankfulness for the ways they protected the whole system.
And some of the alts are truly likeable. It was their job to be likeable. others had to do truly awful things, and we have a much harder time accepting them as a part of ourselves. but they are.
But my point is... perception can change.