I'm in this club too!!!

When somebody answers no, i feel that i'm the stupidest person in the world for asking this & feel that I must look soooooo very stupid....
I often notice that when someone else says X & is answered No, I feel that it was ok to ask, & this person is fine & nobody is shocked that "x has asked y" because it's them and they are normal, etc.. but when it's me asking, i dont feel the same...it's like I'd feel shocked to hear me asking x or y....

it's linked i think for me to the need to be approved, & i never dare doing even simple things for fear of looking stupid, like I remember when we were not in the usual office with T & the chair (kind of a big armchair) was i felt quite away from the other & T asked me if the distance was ok or i could move it...& though i really felt there was too much distance, i said "it's fine" ...i remember thinking how stupid I'd look moving things in this place..like it's not my place so i'm not gonna touch things...
but I got stuck at the next appt : the same chairs were a lot closer & this time i thought it would feel too close & she asked the same thing...but of course i said the distance was fine & it implied that i had been lying one time or the other... but i thought : i really cannot take this chair, pull it way across the room implying "yes it was really too close to you"....
As for emails to T, the other day, after spending 2 hours hesitating, shall i write or not? I got an idea I ve decided to send an email saying "i 've spent the last 20 minutes (what a liar--you can add at least 1hr!! <---hum, i didnt write that..) wondering if it was ok to send an email or not, so is it ok?"

I won't tell you how long it took me to actually manage clicking on "enter" to send the other one ..lol