Thank you, Lost in the Woods. I know exactly what you are saying. Part of the deal was transparency...no passwords or codes on phones, but having said that, I won't be snooping because it will feed my anxiety.
I am okay with non face to face contact, partially because I think it will be rare and that it will peter out eventually.
This isn't a temporary resolution of conflict, it's a final solution. If he breaks his word, I will find out eventually, and it will be over. Already putting money of my own aside just in case. But things are good.