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I have met my fiancée on eharmony ( wedding in less than two weeks). There was no questions that pertain to views on sexuality whatsoever. I am a very liberal and progressive person and would not be on something conservative. My fiancée is a big time nerd. I am a liberal Jew and he isn't religious whatsoever. There was nothing that would even remotely indicate that it's pro Christian or conservative or have any views on homosexuality at all. Nothing. Questions pertained to personality types and traits. There was nothing even remotely on a subject you describe, I have bisexual daughter and plenty gay friends and students of every variety, id never look for a date on a site that would even ask me about it or let alone condemn anything or deny admission. . I really don't understand what you are referring to? I am straight though and was looking for a straight man, maybe they don't match homosexual pairs, thats I don't know but it didn't pertain to me. I really don't get it. Perhaps you are talking about years ago. Not how it's currently is. Strange

Like I said, I looked at it quite a while ago right after my last long-term girlfriend and myself broke up. I wouldn't be surprised if they cut down on right wing stuff after they caught heat in the media for it. I haven't really revisited the idea of eHarmony since, TBH. The way it delivers matches (as opposed to letting you browse) is rather unappealing. You can't really see what's there in terms of of a user base. It's what I disliked about Coffee Meets Bagel as well. It's just too nebulous. I might give it a try on a free trial. That's about it.

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Sometimes it's ok for the person not to be 100% a match in terms of interests and likes/dislikes. What if you challenge yourself and go for women who don't have the same tastes? Come from a different background? What if you go for complementary personal qualities? What if they are just good people but don't like the same things as you? Or aren't nerdy etc or are older or maybe are clean cut etc? Expand your horizons? What if you describe personal character qualities rather than your interests? I am just trying to come up with something, there got to be something

I never said it wasn't. Again, if we're picking apart my profile here, which is something I was very hesitant about doing for a reason: A good part of the time that I've spent on dating sites, I've had little-to-no outline of what I was specifically "looking for"... figuring that people would take it wrong (like they often do... like has happened on here already). I'll say it again: I've tried a lot of things.

My modus operandi has been to peruse profiles myself, and contact those that read like they might be a fit... and frankly I've been quite open minded about it, I'd say. I have never avoided say, non-nerdy or non-clean cut women or women from different backgrounds or with different tastes in my searches... at all... I've messaged thousands of women since ~2010. The vast of them were hardly a mirror image of myself (that would be a tall order). Heck, I've taken a lot of chances on profiles with not a whole lot info in them to begin with. I feel like if anything, women are being way less open-minded about me, than I am about them.