@Whisper888 so sorry that you are currently experiencing a hard time in your marriage. My brother and sister in law recently completed their divorce, and it is never easy. As far as lawyer involvement goes, sometimes it is necessary. If mediation is unsuccessful, lawyers will play a big role in settling the terms of your divorce, through the court system. If you can settle the terms between the two of you, it's possible to have a relatively short and inexpensive separation. I found a company called Thistoo "Your Personal Divorce Assistant" and it seems helpful. @Everyone has anyone heard of this? Would be curious to know how about your experiences.

Best of luck.