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Old Jul 11, 2016, 06:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Patagonia View Post
I'm not happy!
Last conversation w/ T throws a huge wrench into our living situation.
Originally I had my 2 DD share a bedroom. Then my DS has his own bedroom.
My hubby & I share a bedroom.
We're all packed into a pretty small house. Very little privacy.

We've had a lot of issues w/ our oldest who is now 11yo & to help we moved her, temporarily into DS room & moved DS who is 6yo into Other DD room who is 8yo.
Confusing I know.

But this is only temporary. All their stuff is still in their original rooms.

So now the T says that oldest DD needs stability & her privacy & we need to make the room switch. That's a lot of work! And a lot of crap to move.

Problem is what do I do w/ DS who will need his privacy soon too from his sister that also shares the room!
We don't have a lot of room in this house! I don't know what to do....besides move! Not possible anyway.

I'm kind of angry at this T Bec to her it's an easy solution but it doesn't fix anything!

What should I do?
there are ways to give the two girls their own space\rooms and also move the son back in his own room. at 8 and 6 girls and boys should be starting to separate into their own rooms anyway due to natural body developments that usually happen between the ages of 8 and teen age for girls.

heres how my wife and I are working the problem out with our three children (two girls and a boy one boy and one girl are twins,) they are still very young but we are trying to work in each having their own space actual bedroom space in this fixer upper we are in is limited.

we placed the two girls in the largest bedroom, the boy in the smallest and my wife and I in the middle sized room.

then we took the girls dressers and placed them in the center of the room each facing the direction of each girls side of the room we also added two book cases back to back so that each girl had a book case facing their side of the room. now each girl has their own room with a futon style bed that can be placed up like a sofa or down like a single sized twin bed. this way when the girls are old enough for sleep overs and company they have seating playing room as well as room for an air mattress for their company. when the girls are older we plan on adding dresser top mirrors. for extra lighting each girl has a touch lite firmly secured on the wall above the head of their beds.

it took some work and some compromise to do this as my wife and I had to give up our master bedroom but in the long run we feel thats whats best for the children. at some point in the future we plan on putting in actual walls to separate the two girls