Thank you for the replies....To answer your questions, my husband has gone to therapy but is not able to dissect the things that are bothering him and does not present them to therapist in order for him/her to help. He will talk at home and admit many things that bring him down, but in therapy everything is just fine. The fights could be about anything; the main thread that ties them together is my overly sensitive nature - I tell myself not to interpret things as a dig at myself because I know better but often my temper gets ahead of me. To add to it my husband's baggage includes being very moody and there is always the question of: is he being moody or am I imagining it. No amount of communication seems to resolve this for the next incident.