Hi,

A little back story on me. I was diagnosed with BPD about 3 years ago. Life was a struggle before and being aware, DBT, etc have brought me a very long way. My doctor said on a scale of 1-10 of severity I'm about a 3 so most of my struggles are mainly internal some but overall I'm doing great. When relationships end that is my main problem but in a relationship I bring a lot of great qualities to the table that girl love. I haven't been in a relationship since I have been diagnosed mainly because I wanted to work on myself and be patient so when I am, I do it right, and in a healthy way.

Having said that, I've met someone. We have only been on 2 dates (she invented me to church on our 2nd) but we habe both said that we feel like we've reconnected with a long lost friend, and have a great connection. Both of us have stayed let's just keep getting to know one another day to day and let's let it all play out and enjoy it. It's been a long time since I've met someone that I connect with as I have been very selective and not entered any Unhealthy relationships I have always have in my past.

Now her is the main question I have. When, if do I tell her about my BPD? We already have talked a little and I've told her I have a little bit of a rough patch in my life and so has she. I still take A med. Lamictal which I'm not ashamed of at all and it's great, and I plan on seeing a new doctor, therapist, and DBT group (just moved to town). If I ever have to say I can't hang out Wednesday, and can't lie if she ask why, but don't want to be vague and aloof about it either.

I have mentioned that I don't want to rush into anything intimate for a while until we get to know each other (big problem in the past), but feel I need to open about it before we do.

Anyone have experience or advice to share?