Thank you. I appreciated your input.

That's the Balance I need. If I tell before we get into a full blown relationship and she said she can't handle that, then it sux. Earlier before emotions get involved seems the best route.

Her Ex husband was military and had PTSD and the reason for the divorce.

Hearing me dealing with it what you read it about on the internet doesn't really fit now that I come a long way. My therapist says she can see me being in DBT for 2 rounds. About a year. Hopefully that will kinda soften the blow of any