One time when I was really depressed and in tears, a family member said "better you than me." That hurt.

Otherwise, if I'm in an elevated mood I do whatever I want within reason. I've done the scorched earth mania, got the tshirt. Now I just do things that feel good and don't cause problems. There's no one monitoring my behavior, really. I don't like being bossed around if my mood is elevated so that works out just fine!

If I'm in a mixed episode, I'm best off with a loved one checking on me but otherwise leaving me alone while I work through it.