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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
The person you date shouldn't be a guide or a counselor. The person you date should be an equal; a partner. If you feel like you need guidance, that's where therapy or life coaching comes in. Working through that and figuring out what you're good at or what you're passionate should be your own, personal journey. You're young so it's understandable you haven't figured that out yet. Just don't look to a partner for that. It makes relationships unhealthy when one person is is control and the other is the follower. It's much healthier to be in a relationship where you are equals.
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I definitely agree with you but when your mentally ill your mentality can change and I think I spent talking to guys as a distraction instead of dealing with my mental issues. I saw relationships as my scapegoat I went into relationships to escape my chaotic family I ended up lying to myself about how I truly felt and I never want to do that to myself ever again it lacks integrity. I fear that I will always be in relationships for that reason instead of genuine feelings that is why I hold back a lot from meeting new people especially men. I fear letting my desperate desire to escape my problems will be controlling how I feel.