Quote:
Originally Posted by rainyday107
I don't do well with door slamming at all. I hope this doesn't sound critical, but it sounds like your boyfriend lets his kids run wild. A nine-year old having a tantrum? Unless he is a special needs child, I think he's way too old to be having tantrums.
The PS4? If I were him, I'd unplug it and put it away and sit the children down and explain changes in their behavior need to be made. Video games are a privilege, not a right. And they are at YOUR house, too.
I'd be hiding in my bedroom as well. I have one daughter that is 16. We have our disagreements but the tantrums stopped by four years old.
I should point out that I'm sensitive to noise and chaotic children. Even if I am properly medicated, lol. I believe in using "inside voice" and no door slamming and limits. It can be hard parenting work, setting limits. It's easier to let kids run wild and do whatever they want.
If their bio mom parents this way, I still think your boyfriend can set limits when the kids are with him.
I think it's in the children's best interest to have boundaries set. It's a form of love, I think. I don't believe in corporal punishment but boundaries, absolutely.
Your neighbor deserves peace in her living space and the cat shouldn't be threatened. Period.
I hope this helps and no offense meant if my viewpoint is unpopular. .
|
Amen!!! My bf and I butt heads over the overuse of electronics and how they get away with murder. I was raised to respect and say please and thank you. If I acted like THIS at that age.... Oh better lock yourself in the bathroom cuz dads home. No never any severe punishment but a wooden spoon and many speeches were given. I didn't get my first cell phone till I was 17. These kids have every... And I mean every electronic they wish for. No chores done. Don't even put their plates away after dinner is done. But hey, I'm just dads gf so what can I do.
And I get along with their mother too and her and I agree on a lot of these things. She doesn't put up with crap and she trusts me having a hand in bringing them up.
My bf is pretty much "out of sight, out of mind". So as long as they have a controller in their hands and tearing apart some other room then he doesn't care. I'm always the one that sets the rules in my house yet I can only do so much you know? Thanks for understanding!
Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk