Next time you're sifting through thoughts to tell T, instead of rejecting one of the scary ones; imagine your T is sitting next to you (I use to picture a wooden bench :-) as if she were a good friend. I didn't realize that my default was "across" from me like a teacher would be so there was the whole right/wrong, good/bad, thing going on. Imagining my T cared and was next to me, just listening with compassion, etc. made it much easier to tell her scary things and gave me the warm fuzzies because her responses confirmed that's sort of how it "is". Made me feel much more connected and I could see better how we were working "together".