Hi all,
I'm experiencing a bit of a predicament. I'm 24, almost 25 dating a much older man who has a son he has custody of 2 weekends a month. We've been together for three years now. It has been a somewhat rocky relationship in the past due to his behavior with coping with his anxiety, but of has cleared up as of the last few months, and I feel we are even closer because of it. I'm happy with him, and we are both very much in love.

The issue is that I've been planning to move out of state ever since I moved here to go to college 7 years ago, but am finally finding myself in a position where I could actually take the leap. On top of that, I have a health condition that makes of very difficult to function in the cold winter here. Two years ago I talked to my boyfriend about moving away and he told me in a year we could seriously think about moving. Two years have gone by. He told me three years when his son was 12, one year ago. Now, last night I brought it up again. He basically told me unequivocally that he wasn't going to move for another four or five years until his son is I'm high school! I told him I'd be 30 by that time and that I couldn't wait, and he just told me to do what made me happy.

That seems pretty definitive doesn't it? He always has am excuse for why it will keep taking exponentially many more years. I don't want to leave him, but this is my dream. I also don't want to take him away from his son, but it would have to be his decision based on how much he could visit with him. I feel as though he told me if I wanted to go, I would have to go without him.

What do you guys think?