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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
I just want to touch on that clingy subject...
While its all good and well to not come across as a clinger... You also don't want to show zero interest at all.
So please don't always wait for her to contact you, she might perceive this as disinterest on your part, and it may be why she's reluctant to let you know where she's at.
Also, even if she doesn't think any of these things she could be asking about you on a forum right now and ppl will say "if a guy is interested he will make an effort" yes, sadly totally disregarding what the guy may be experiencing... Not fair, and certainly not always true (from my own experience with my bf) BUT its what is preached across the world.
So please call or text her, even if its just a pic or a meme that you'd like to share. That way there's no early gushing goo goo eyes or the clingy label, just someone opening the lines of communication (which BONUS!... means he was thinking about her)....
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Hey there! So...a lot of people assume I'm a guy.
I'm not a man...=/ I'm queer.
The reason why I wait for her to contact me is because I noticed when I contact her (which I almost always contacted her first), the conversations are short lived and she always stops messaging first. So I don't know what to do.
This isn't me bashing her. She's really lovely, but I've never been in this situation before. This is mostly me asking how to deal with my insecurities because I don't want to self-sabotage myself. So I'm currently trying to keep myself distracted, by going around the city and doing things by myself, or engaging in creative projects.
ALSO. Why my insecurities are getting the best is because she initiated the first hangout. So she said we should hang out again in the future. So since she initiated the first hangout, I initiated the second, but she hasn't given me a clear answer at all. Just that she's busy and she'll see.
I understand where you're coming from, though, and the advice is much appreciated!
Just...Lol, I'm not a man. XD