Hi wintereyes. While I was reading your post I couldn't help but feel we are very much alike. I too, struggle with the same issues you are struggling with. I try not to label myself but also want to know where I fit. It's not easy nor is it smooth but it is what it is.

I agree with Skeezyks, I would try to find someone professional to talk to. Not to tell you what to do as I certainly don't have that right but I have finally found a therapist I trust but it took a while - I think it's my 4th one. It really helps me and now that I am newly diagnosed with a personality disorder, I feel like I am finally making progress. I'm determined to to get to the bottom of what and who is me.

Be gentle with yourself and don't compare yourself to anyone. And who cares if you are sensitive? Most great people are!

Hang in there and good luck.