Really - women don't like being called beautiful or lovely? I know I'm new to this online dating game but I thought giving someone a compliment on their appearance would be okay. Especially if they're trying to look their best. I agree that you should also comment on their interests (which I have) but the way Match.com is set up they almost encourage you to make a comment on someone's appearance. A lot of the photos very glamorous looking - seems like they want you to notice how they look - guys are very visual. Guess I'm doing it all wrong????