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almedafan wrote:I agree with you on not wanting them to withhold their feelings painful or not. Of course, I love the good feelings better.

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What was hard to handle was in this instance it was both intensely good, but painful too.

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pinksoil said:I asked T, "How much of this is transference and how much if it is a real relationship?"

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We have talked about this in therapy too, and T has assured me we do have a real relationship. I believe him. It feels real to me. So strong--how can it not be real? The time is coming when I will be seeing T outside of the therapy room for his other role in my life. I'm feeling kind of apprehensive about this, like how can I see him outside of his room? Will our relationship still exist outside of the room? Well, if it's real, then it must, right? Or maybe we will be strangers outside of the room. I'm even thinking I would like to "practice" with T by going outside the room with him before the first of our outside meetings. Do you think he would think me entirely crazy if I proposed to him, during one of our regular sessions, that we go outside? I think this would be really helpful to me and would help me deal with the upcoming "outside" meetings. Or will he just look at me when I suggest this and say, "you are so weird, sunny."

I liked the circles thing, pink. Just grab hold of one!