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Originally Posted by Bill3
With something like the Burger King example, my suggestion would be to ask the person about it when they are calm. "You were really upset with me yesterday and I am wondering what I might have done wrong or if I misunderstood the plan."
I don't think you should just, from now on and for the rest of your life, decline when people offer you to help. I think you should take them at their word and assume that when they offer to help it is because they want to help. If they have a change of heart later on that is their problem and their growth opportunity. Idon't think they typically will. And if later on something goes wrong and there is friction then I think you should discuss it with them when they are calm.
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Makes sense. I just hate feeling like people secretly expect me to say no when offering to do something nice since it seemed as if that was the case in the past. As for the burger king situation, yeah I will have to ask what I did next time since I felt like it was sudden and uncalled for.
Maybe I misunderstood something but she could have been politer. Oh well. Yeah with her, from that point on, I always ate before an outing especially if she was paying for us just so she would not get angry again. I also wondered if maybe she also just did not like me.