This might help you. "Guys are very visual" is the quickest way to make me run in the opposite direction. Unless you're a film director, that comment tells me only one thing--you like looking at women. Experience has taught me when men say that it usually means naked women. So? What else do you have to recommend yourself as dating material? In addition I'd like to point out that women are "visual" too. I've yet to meet a woman who says she has a great hankering to go out with the scroungiest, creepiest looking guy she can find. I like handsome men--but I also find that the nicer the guy, the more handsome he is in my eyes.

The absolute best thing someone can do for him or herself is to be well-groomed and to present themselves truthfully. I'm reading between the lines here and you have something about you that is keeping you from meeting appropriate women. Either you are off-putting physically or you come across in a strange way verbally (or electronically in writing) or you are (perhaps unconsciously, yet deliberately) sabotaging your chances by approaching unavailable (to you, anyway) women.

And before anyone jumps on what I said, let me say that I don't think people have to be perfect physically. Men can be bald, women and men can be plump or very thin--it's about being well groomed and giving off a healthy vibe. I wouldn't want to date anyone scary or creepy.

I'm guessing that you are contacting people who have put up pictures -- and probably they are young women. I think you'd have far more luck if you concentrated on 40+ women; preferably 50+ women, and don't let no photo dissuade you; get to know the person first.

As far as the hunting-fishing gal goes; it might be helpful for you to decide what kind of guy you are first. Are you high maintenance, low or in-between? Do you like the outdoors and if so, in what way? Dining al fresco at a restaurant or sleeping under the stars in the wilderness? Those are two very different people. And while one person might like both scenarios, do you fit more on one side than the other? You will find women are the same--some will go more for one, some will go more for the other. When you travel, how do you travel? First class all the way, or something else? Answering all these questions about yourself will help you find the right people for you.

Frankly I am not interested in men who like really, really like to travel. I see a lot of online dating ads for those men. I have pets and I don't have time to travel. Most of the women you meet are going to have jobs (and if they don't, you have to wonder why not???) So jetting off to Paris on the spur of the moment is out. I'm not ready to retire yet. But if you are retired and do have the time to travel a lot; or just have a lot of time, period, then you should be checking out divorced women with great alimony (and no job) or retired women. Older women no longer look like grandmas of the past.

I see ads for guys who like the hottest spots in town. I can't stand crowds.

Those "glamorous" photos are probably scams if they are of young women.

If you are dead set on getting a 20 something, write your ad that way, state why you think you'd be a good catch for her, and be prepared to wait. You'll have to wade through all the scams and then choose from among young women who might have significant problems. I hope this helps.