[QUOTE=s4ndm4n2006;5179830]initially you minimize her being abusive the fact that you don't trust her with the kids speaks otherwise. Fact of the matter is, if they are being abused, constantly or periodically you need to get them out of there. even without the cheating coming into play that would be my suggestion, so adding that just underscores your need to get out and get the kids to safety.

She's probably worse than what is shown here.

Do you have a legal, separation agreement with your wife? I don't know if you are in a no-fault divorce state, but amidst all the stress, I would at least consult with a lawyer so you can navigate through this and protect yourself, your assets and your kids. I believe in mother's rights, but it seems she needs help and counseling, or marriage counselling maybe, where you can sort all this out.