Healmef4me~Yes his issues should definitely be in therapy and that's something I will probably need to revisit with him as time goes on. So far he's so closed off in the therapist's office (from what I hear) that while he's very polite nothing is accomplished.
Coconutoil and ceridwen - thank you so much. A lot of what you said has worked for me as well, to a point. I suppose what I'm taking away from this is - no matter how difficult, I have to let him be him and work in his own time and I must work on myself, no matter how hard it is to separate the two.