Guess what? Women are visual creatures too!!! Just as much as men are, but it isn't often the #1 priority.

Of course on a dating site I am going to notice their appearance, just like I would in person. And just like in person, I know my opinion may change once i know more about him.

On a dating site I don't need to worry as much about getting into a sticky situation due to being able to just end the conversation.

When reading a profile of someone who I think is gorgeous, I'm liable to go "eeuugh yuck" after reading his profile. Just like in person I might decide quickly into the conversation that I am by far not interested anymore. And the opposite is true - and for me, is pretty much true in most of the relationships I have had. Where I don't initially think of the guy as being super attractive. I won't think he is ugly, but I'll just be like 'eh he looks ok". But once I get to talk to them or read his profile? Then his attractiveness might go way up.

Which is the case of the guy I've met from the site. We aren't in a relationship, and are just friends for now. But you know what? He is so not photogenic that it's funny. His pictures didn't attract me, but they didn't turn me away. But the stuff he had in his profile gave me something of interest, and quickly in to messages with him I was like "wow I cannot believe we have that in common!" That happened because he read my profile. And that led the conversations.

But a compliment on my appearance? Either elicits "meh boring" or "ugh really!" Based on what else is said. Being attracted to someone goes without saying on dating sites. Commenting on it quickly indicates that my appearance matters more than the rest of me - which is a huge turn off for most people.

Again, for the third time: have you broadened your range to include women your age? I don't care how young you are actually looking, but are you finally looking at women who are within 3-years of you? Or are you still only looking at women 10+ years younger.