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Originally Posted by Macd123
I don't know if I can agree with all of this. I do think women appreciate compliments on their looks. As a man, it's the first thing I notice - sorry but it's true. I agree that ambition, intelligence, humor, etc are all good qualities, however, these probably won't be obvious until you actually have a conversation with the person. I still don't see anything inherently wrong with saying someone is beautiful if I think they are. It's really hard to focus on someone's other qualities when you don't know them. A lot of the profiles I've seen are pretty redundant - I like movies, books, food, walks, etc. That's not going to grab my attention but a lovely smile will. Sorry if I offend but we're talking intial impressions here.
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Why are you insistent on commenting on women's looks online when every woman who has replied said they hate it and automatically delete those messages because it feels creepy/like a cat call?
Actually, it is rather easy to determine qualities like ambition, intelligence, and humor on an online profile. If a woman has an advanced degree, a good job, and/or well-written profile, it's probably safe to assume she has some level of intelligence and ambition. For me, those are at the top of my list when I read an online profile. If she makes jokes and witty comments in her profile, she's probably funny. If she talks about fitness or sports, she's probably athletic. When I read a profile, I look at the picture to see if they are "good enough" looking to make me want to read the profile. Then, based on the profile, I decide whether I'm interested in messaging the person or not. 75% it's the content of the profile that turns me off. I won't message someone who has a lot of spelling/grammar errors, no job, hobbies I don't like, very religious, etc. if you are only focused on the picture, it's not at all surprising that women are not responding to you. That is precisely the approach we look to avoid. Profiles are not "all the same"-- they are vastly different!