I'm thinking very seriously about cutting my step mom of 15 years out of my life. She was emotionally abusive to me as a child, and possibly (probably) manipulated my father into seeing me as a threat to his finances while I was in college, resulting in leaving me stranded with tens of thousands of dollars in debt and freeing up enough of his money for her to pursue her own lofty goals of a dream career. Now she is a yoga instructor and pays nothing but lip service to love and light in spite of her very obvious narcissistic behavior, cold personality, and complete disinterest in me or my husband's life. It's almost painful to be in the same room as her.

My dad has a lot of problems too, and years of her manipulation has chipped away at the relationship we had before they got married. However, I feel that there is still something there to salvage so long as she isn't in the immediate picture.

Does anyone have any advice on how to do this? Or resources? I've tried internet searches, but everything I've seen involves cutting off both parents, or cutting off a separated parent, and I haven't been able to find anything pertaining to step-parents particularly.

Any advice is welcome.