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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
Yes. Sometimes we don't know what to do out there in the real world.
I agree with Bill here of course. Don't let a couple of bad occasions change you. Sometimes (a lot of the time) stuff is on them...and you are acting perfectly appropriately. It would be sad for them to influence your future self in a negative way, I think.
Also, for people like you and me (yeah we have self-esteem issues I think, unless I am reading you wrong here) things are more emotional. We worry we may be offending a lot and we try to act a certain way "just in case". Sadly, I don't know how to improve myself in this area (although some people here have helped me more than they know)....To me, it's one of the toughest things to do. But awareness is the first step.
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Yeah it may be part of self esteem but it has more to do with others. I feel like I am actually thinking more about how others feel rather than myself. I'd much rather decline an offer to spare them the inconvience than risk making them mad. You are right, I do act certain ways, just in case.
Yeah I really don't want to stop accepting offers but sometimes I think of it. Yes it can be a self esteem issue but I just think if it as I am at least thinking about other people rather than just myself. But yeah, even though I am way more cautious, I still do accept offers at times. And when I do, I now offer something in return no matter who it is. It could be a friend or someone with authority who may be doing something polite because it is the person's job.