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Well, it seems like a charming and well-written profile. I found after reading it, I was thinking, "He seems interesting! But I want to know more about him personally." You write about what you do and what you like, which is good - the only thing I'd personally ask for is to know more about *who* you are. Personal traits/qualities. That is what I tend to look for. I hope that was at least a little helpful, or at least not offensive.

Not at all offensive. I've tried to drop in traits like honesty by mixing it in with humor, or mentioning my family and friends being important to me. Ultimately, this stuff should get felt out on dates, but since no one wants to date me, I have to wonder, does any of it really matter?

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If it makes you feel any better, I have a HELL of a time finding quality people to talk to. That's with having a good brain and being reasonably attractive.

I'm not so sure why that is. While there's a lot of not-so-well written profiles out there (which like I said, I give a chance too), I do come across ones that do have depth, character, and wit as well... but it's almost always a case of dead air, or at best, a very unenthusiastic conversation.

Honestly, as self-defeatist as it may sound, I was chatting about this topic more generally on another forum, and I think it just boils down to me being straight-up ugly. I simply don't bring to the table what gets one considered for relationship material, and there's nothing I will ever be able to do about it. There's just got to be so many better options out there than me, and if there aren't (like I've heard women oft lament), they'd all rather be alone than give the dumper fire of a mess that is my physical manifestation a chance.

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I do agree that location can really limit your dating pool (sometimes unexpectedly). Sometimes there's just no one around for a bit.

Yeah. I'm not putting to much stake in it as I wasn't very successful dating in Portland where hipster beardos like myself were more prevalent, but I want to get out of the area for a host of other reasons so why not, right?

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Originally Posted by LadyShadow I don't think you're garbage. I read a lot of this thread and even though you're good looking and the profile was good its just "the luck of the cards" I have to say I have tried online dating in the past and sometimes I still browse my old OKCupid profile. Try not to be down on yourself. I know you feel alone and you really want to connect but this is consuming ALL of you. I guess I came to the realization that I didn't NEED anyone to be happy that's why these days I am content. I let go of all the desperation and expectation and now I am just living my life. Sometimes you just need to do just that. Life for you. I do wish you the best though and I hope your search does end with you finding the women of your dreams. Best of luck to you!

Well, for me, life is about being happy. I'm simply not happy being alone. Unlike you, I do need someone to be happy. I'm not ashamed to admit that. I want love, sex, companionship, family, home, etc. just like most people... and while some people can be happy being loners (and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that), it's just not for me in particular.

That's not to say I still don't derive pleasure from all the other things in life like friends, hobbies, food, travel, etc., but that's just not a complete life to me. I'm left longing for more... female companionship and all the things that come with... and I've never been the one to chase one night stands at singles bars. That just doesn't work for me. I think most of us get to the point where we just want someone to come home to.