Hi there,

I'm sure this will sound absurd, but this is my situation. I've been married for 2 years. We moved in together very early on. He has had a previous drug problem which he has seeked help for. I found out last year that for most of the time we had been married, he was cheating on me with prostitutes. At that time, I was pregnant and we went to see a therapist and decided to work through it. (I lost the baby at 21 weeks) Over this past year, he claims to have not cheated but I've found that he has been texting prostitutes several times. He denies ever doing anything and says he hasn't cheated in a year. I do bring it up very often as I'm skeptical about how truthful he really is. My problem is this; I have a few overnight work functions that I have to attend and I'm terrified to go as I think he'll cheat. He of course says that he won't. am I crazy for not believing him? Every time I've been away overnight (visiting family etc) he has either cheated, or called/text/looked up prostitutes. He insists that I need help and have issues every time I bring it up looking for reassurance. I've said some terrible things to him as well, like I would cheat on him to get back at him etc out of anger(I'm far from perfect)

Would you even recommend couples couselling, or is this a "me" problem?

I'm sure most of you will say I should leave, but for whatever reason I feel a responsibility to make it work.