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sister said:This week I noticed a painting and asked T if it had always been there and he said yes. We talked about it a little bit. I feel in a way I am just waking up?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I had that exact experience once, sister. One time in session I walked in the room and noticed this display of colorful scarves hanging on hooks on the wall. All colors of the rainbow. I commented and T said those had always been there. Where had I been!? We talked about it for a while. I think in the early days of therapy, it was so intense and we were working on past trauma, that I was really self absorbed and not quite aware of my surroundings. Being able to notice the scarves to me meant I was a bit less traumatized and on a more even keel.

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Is there a "supposed to" in therapy?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I immediately thought this same question when I read what Mouse wrote! I think it is a pretty profound question. Who chooses the path in therapy? Is there a "right" way and a "wrong" way to a goal? Or are there many paths that will get you to the destination? Or many dead ends that T can see in advance, even if I can't?

I remember a few weeks ago, I became bothered by putting my drink on his end table and was searching for coasters and ended up playing with a puzzle box that resembled coasters and that T helped me disassemble. Well, after that session, I noticed that T now had a coaster on his table! He had never had one before. Ha, ha, I haven't used it.