To unwanted sexual thought of family members, be sure you want to share that part of you. If won't help safety especially with panic attacks just make sure you want to share this part of you. Establish rules and training if you have to this is common for DID and dissociative disorder for gender fluid systems when it comes to incest. Maybe just do it to help your own mind please don't share it without your own safety to worry about. It is a crime to make anyone feel unsafe especially family just remember that.