I'm the odd one out. I think it is stalker behavior. Yes you only did it once and feel bad for it, vut you still did it.

I haven't had the desire to stalk my current T, but ex-T... I think about showing up at her work and confronting her. I think about sitting in my car on her street watching her. And I think about sending her "gifts" (things she wouldn't like). But I don't do it. They're just thoughts. But if I put it into action, I would consider myself a stalker.

Googling is different to me. It's public information. Their fault if they put it out there. Like FB. There's ways to lock it down. And my T knows I google her. We actually made a deal. Come termination, if she give me all the things I wanted, I'm not supposed to goggle her anymore. Of course she wouldn't know, but I'm an honest person and stick to my word.

Try to reverse the situation. Would you like it if you saw yoyr T spying on you? That would creep me out bad.